We took our son out on “adventures” today. I have a 90’s themed birthday party this weekend and needed to find the perfect outfit. Thrift shopping went pretty well.
Afterwords we went to lunch. Because we were slightly behind schedule Little Man was alittle cranky at Red Robin. His screaming helped us collect a lot of unhelpful glares. Once he got some food in him it was smooth sailing again. One of the mom’s who glared started having her own child act up. As much as I do not wish tantrums on any parent, I feel like Karma was trying to teach her something.
After lunch we had to hit up walmart for diapers and milk. My husband decided to encourage a game that including Little Man punching him in the stomach.
Was this game a good idea? Of course not. To clarify, our son is 4. He wasn’t being violent or aggressive. Anyone watching would see that both child and father are laughing.
When my husband got tired of being punched in the gut, he tried to end the game to no avail. “Never do something with a kid once you don’t wanna do for the rest of your life.” This manta rings way too true for my family.
When we get to the dairy section we are knee deep in the “ignore it and it might go away” style of dealing with difficult behavior. It has an official name, I just don’t remember it. It is something we are “trained in” by the therapists. Avoidance technique maybe? Anyway….
This “nice lady” watches our son punch his dad and proceeds to tell Little Man to stop hitting his daddy. Little Man doesn’t notice. My husband and I give a polite “resting bitch face” nod and move along. Hopefully she is joking.
After a couple minutes I completely forget about “nice lady” until she walks up to our cart, put her hand on our son’s arm and tells him, again, to stop hitting his daddy.
I politely said, “he is autistic. He does not understand you.”
She did the normal, she had no idea and you can never tell, blah blah blah. I just ignored her until she got the hint that I was not interested in a conversation.
Looking back, I wish I would have just told her to mind her own business. My son’s neurodiversity is not the issue. This, “nice lady’s”, desire to properly discipline every child on the earth is. Hopefully, she learned to think before assuming a child is just being bad.
Welcome to the new world, people. Take your ignorance somewhere else.