I have a lot of great qualities as a friend. I’m a great listener. With exception to family obligations, I will bend over backwards to help any way I can. I am available to talk almost 24/7. I’m witty. I’m pretty awesome.
Like most people, I have some less than perfect attributes as well. One of my biggest is my friendship jealousy.
As a wife, I don’t get really jealous of other women with my husband. It doesn’t bother me if he’s hanging out with a female friend. I know he’s going to come home to me. Whatevs.
But, when it comes to my platonic friendships, I’m a little… possessive. Once I mentally claim someone as a friend, they are MY friend. I have real problems hearing they hang out with other people with me. It’s like they are my favorite toy, and no one else can play with them.
Psycho much? Perhaps.
I’m not even sure why this is a thing. I have more than one friend. So I don’t know why I have problems with other friends having friends. None my friends have ever made me feel excluded. None of my friends are blowing me off for other people.
There is no rational reason why any of this should bother me.
And, usually, I’m not going to whatever it is because I’ve said I’m busy. I can’t expect my friends to stay home and mope because I have plans.
In the case that has me thinking about it tonight, I have to stay home and spend time with my son so my husband can have a night out. Which is totally reasonable, because I get to go get out ALOT. He deserves some time out, too.
It might not help that my friend is hanging out with a chick I’m not a fan of. Yea, not a big fan. I’m pretty sure she’s not a fan of me either. Yea, that’s bringing up some feeling of anger. My lip is currently curled up. Then again, maybe she’s cool. Chick might just be an acquaintance who got caught in the cross fire of an ended friendship.
Man, girl friendships are complicated, aren’t they?
Do you experience friend jealousy? Is this something I should have grown out of by now?